The secret of wealthy people is a strong routine.

Your mental and physical health deeply depend on routine.

Routine means having structure, especially when it comes to eating habits. Your body is not conscious, it doesn’t know why you skip meals. It doesn’t know if you skipped eating because you felt unwell, because you were busy, or because you thought it was “better” for you.

The body only registers the absence of nourishment. When this happens repeatedly, it cannot function at its best, because it doesn’t have the resources it needs. This is how deficiencies begin.

The moment you stop giving your body what it needs, the body stops working with you.

Stress plays a major role here. When you don’t have a routine, you live in chaos. You sleep poorly or not enough, you skip meals, you eat badly or in a rush, you never slow down. Your body is then forced to assimilate everything in a state of stress. And when you are stressed, your body circulates hormones and substances that, if present chronically, damage your system.

This is why routine is beautiful. Routine gives safety. Routine gives well being.

Going to bed more or less at the same time every day matters. If you usually have a stable routine and occasionally go out late or break it, your body can recover. But if your life is chaotic most of the time and you only rest or slow down once in a while, that doesn’t rebalance things. What truly matters is what you do most of the time, consistently.

Calm is a key word here. Calm does not mean weakness. Calm means strength.

Routine means stability. Stability means strength. It means that your basic needs are met. When something is missing, financial stability, emotional security, balanced relationships, a calm rhythm, the body and the mind suffer.

People who are generally well tend to have a strong routine. They wake up more or less at the same time, they have rituals, they hydrate, they eat breakfast, they take care of their body, they move, they work, not from stress, but with intention.

Another important aspect of routine is value.

Routine is an act of self-respect. It creates balance, and balance is essential in this life. The secret of well being is always in the middle, not too much, not too little.

You don’t need to be extremely rich to live well. You can find balance even in a simple life. True well being starts inside: how you feel, how you treat yourself, how you move through your days.

If we had to create a hierarchy, inner balance would come first: mental well being, low stress, calm, clarity. That quiet desire to do things, but to do the right amount, without burning yourself out.

Then come the foundations:

sleep, proper nutrition, regular schedules, movement, walking, running, stretching, bodyweight training, gym, without excess. Hydration. Minerals. Vitamins. Gentle detox habits like warm water with lemon. A social life. Moments of joy. Even going out and enjoying yourself.

A dynamic but harmonious life.

Most of your life should be built on this balance. Within that balance, there can also be moments of excess, a late night, a celebration, a break in routine. The body can handle that, as long as the foundation is solid.

If you want to glow, if you want radiant skin, energy, presence, both feminine and masculine, sacrifices are required. You need consistency, coherence, and commitment.

That commitment must also be functional to your life. It doesn’t mean perfection. It means that if one day you can’t do something, you return to it the next day. You protect the balance.

Discipline doesn’t mean rigidity. It means flexibility guided by structure.

True discipline starts inside: in your thoughts, in how you see the world, in how you learn and grow.

When I was much younger, I didn’t know how to do many things simply because no one had taught me. There wasn’t even curiosity at first. I started learning because I needed to. A problem forced me to search for answers.

That necessity taught me how powerful curiosity and self education are. Learning how the body and mind work helped me take care of myself better. My psychophysical well being exists today because I never stopped wanting to understand more, to know more, to work on myself.

I wouldn’t have made it if I had settled. If I had accepted a “normal” life without questioning, without wanting more.

This doesn’t mean that a simple life is wrong, not at all. But having no inner limits, being open to improvement, allowed me to overcome things that many people never overcome, even after years of therapy.

The hardest work is always the inner one.

Having the courage to dig, to see things for what they truly are.

And through this awareness, I understood how essential routine is in everyday life.

Routine is like a clock. Your body is a clock.

Your body is not conscious, you are. The body is a machine. If you give it nourishment, it distributes it where it’s needed. If you don’t, it takes resources from less vital areas: skin, hair, eyes. Survival always comes first.

Today there is a lot of talk about fasting, intermittent fasting, extreme diets, ketogenic diets. Many of these approaches are not suitable for everyone and, if misused, can put the immune system and nervous system under severe stress.

When the body doesn’t receive nourishment, it enters survival mode. Regular nourishment is essential. This is why doctors insist so strongly that pregnant women must not skip meals, because it harms both the mother and the child. Children cannot skip meals either, because it affects growth.

If skipping meals were truly beneficial, widespread malnutrition wouldn’t exist, and we know that hunger and nutritional deficiencies cause immense suffering around the world.

The body needs regularity. The body needs care.

And routine is one of the most powerful forms of selflove.

Don’t focus on losses.

We all lose something.

We lose friends, we lose money, we lose someone we loved, we lose opportunities.

We lose time. We lose many things.

But the more we focus on the loss, the more those losses affect us. The more we stay there, the less space, energy, and vibration we have to create and receive something better.

The more you focus on losses, the more losses you will experience in your life, because that is the level of energy and reality you are living from.

If, for example, you lose ten euros, how much does it really affect you?

Instead of focusing on what you lost, focus on the amount of money you can still create if you put your heart into what you love to build.

You have to accept the fact that you will always experience some losses. It is part of this reality. It is how life works, it is how our bodies work: we always need to expel something. Losses and negativity are part of this world. They exist. We cannot completely get rid of them, but we can limit how much space they occupy in our lives.

The more aware you become of this, the less you will be affected by it.

It’s like rain.

When life brings chaos, you have three choices.

You can stand there and complain: what a terrible day, I don’t feel like going for a run, I don’t feel like working, I don’t feel like doing anything. You complain about the traffic, about people not meeting your expectations, about everything. This means living in reaction to events.

Or you can let the chaos enter you, destroy you, overwhelm you. You despair, you think the world is against you, you read every inconvenience as a sign of bad luck, and you collapse emotionally and physically.

Or you can do something else.

As someone special I recently met told me: you can dance in the chaos and wear your soul like a royal coat.

No matter what happens outside, you are. You don’t wait for conditions to change in order to be yourself.

Chaos can pass through you, but it doesn’t have to live inside you.

The more you stay focused on yourself, on creating, on being, the less important losses become. They will still exist, they always will, but they will be irrelevant. They will be part of the package.

Even a healthy body constantly expels dead cells. It processes, it cleans itself.

That is nothing compared to a body that has accumulated stress, toxins, and excess for years.

It’s always a matter of quantity.

Losses are not the problem. Accumulation is.

Life is about this.

The more you focus on good things, the more good things will come into your life, because you know how to recognize and appreciate them.

So don’t integrate losses into your heart, into your mind, into your life.

Accept them and let them go, knowing that something better will come. Focus on growth and on the opportunities that will arrive.

You can lose thousands of opportunities, but if you focus on the one that is coming, it will come.

If instead you let yourself be affected by what people say or think about you, you will start believing that you only deserve that limited version of yourself.

I know it’s not easy, because the past is often inviting. It is familiar, and in a certain way it makes us feel safe. That certainty comforts us, so we prefer what we already know, even if it hurts us.

But the moment you become aware that losses are part of reality, you stop believing that everything that happens is solid and permanent.

It isn’t. Everything is relative. Everything is fluid. There is nothing permanent here.

You may believe that love can be forever. That belief can live in your heart, but you must still be aware that people can change.

They have the right to change. And so do you.

You are entitled to change your mind.

You are entitled to be different from who you were yesterday.

Every one of us has to face losses, negativity, discomfort, unpleasant people, and the ugliness of this world. The problem is that most people are not aware of this, and when it happens, it can affect them deeply.

Accepting that something exists does not mean allowing it to dominate your life.

It simply means acknowledging reality.

You don’t have to become a wall or live in a cage. You just have to be strong enough to face anything and understand that what happens to you is an experience, it is not who you are.

Someone you love is not obliged to love you back.

No one is obliged to stay.

Nothing in this life is truly your property. Everything can change direction at any moment.

Think about the people in Los Angeles who lost their homes to fire. What could they do about it?

They had to accept the reality of this world, a world made not only of good things and good people, but also of loss and destruction.

You are not responsible for everything that happens in the world.

Just as you are not responsible if someone decides to leave you or to change direction.

The more you become aware of this, the less shaken you are by discomfort, rejection, not being chosen, not being accepted, or not getting a job.

And the more comfortable you are with this, the more attractive you become.

Because you are not reacting, not collapsing, not begging life to be different.

You are simply being, even in the middle of the storm.

Your truth will lead you to the life you desire.

Truth is not easy to handle. Truth hurts. Most people would rather live their entire life inside a comforting lie than face one moment of truth.

But the reality is this:

the truth we need the most is often the one nobody can tell us, because no one was there when we were traumatised.

Our trauma had no witnesses.

So unless you meet an exceptional therapist or a truly wise mentor, you are doomed to live like someone with an undiagnosed disease the symptoms but without knowing why. And you will end up believing YOU are the problem.

Tatoo this on your heart: “it’s not my fault”.

The truth about who we are is like the dark side of the moon: you will never see it unless you’re willing to step into the darkness.

You struggle with sleep. You meet monsters in your nightmares. I know exactly how terrifying that is.

But it’s a sign, a message.

It means you need to face your truth, accept it, live with it, and give yourself a real chance to be happy, because you deserve it.

The truth about us always begins in childhood.

Were your parents good parents?

Or did they traumatise you?

How can you know?

It’s simple:

look at the fruits of the family tree.

Look at your life now.

How you feel around them.

How they treat you.

What you became despite them.

There are mistakes parents make that can be forgiven, especially if they acknowledge them.

But there are things you should never forgive, because forgiving them would mean betraying yourself, and the first rule of becoming powerful is:

never betray yourself.

So the truth you’re looking for is hidden in your childhood and in your family.

If everything had been fine, you wouldn’t be searching for answers.

You would already be living your best life, travelling the world, making money, fulfilling your potential.

Only people who are suffering,

people trapped in toxic relationships,

people who cannot make good decisions,

people who live in chronic emotional pain,

seek the truth.

Because pain is the symptom of a deeper wound.

Those who hurt others hide their pain in addictions, violence, or denial.

But you are here.

You’re looking for answers.

And that alone means you are already breaking the cycle.

Why trauma affects your success

If you can’t evolve, progress, or succeed

in your career, relationships, health, money, or social life

it’s because your subconscious is still operating from trauma.

Money issues especially are rooted in trauma.

Money represents power, safety, and self-care.

If you sabotage your finances, it’s because on a subconscious level you were programmed to believe:

“I am not worth anything.”

Facing the truth about your childhood is the first key to breaking this pattern.

Once you see your parents clearly for who they are,

you’ll finally be able to see everyone else clearly too, including the people hurting you today.

And you will cut them out of your life.

And then?

Once you heal,

you will attract people who can love you.

But most importantly,

you will finally love yourself.

And from that place… you will be able to create the life you deserve,

a life that is authentic, powerful, peaceful, and truly yours.

Don’t be ashamed about your situations.

Whatever your situation may be, you must never feel ashamed of yourself. We are born into a context that has already been predetermined. You do not choose your body, your country, your year of birth, your Era, your family, your social status, or your lineage. You cannot choose any of this. What you are given is what you must face. You must walk through it, and reborn a second time.

Everything that has happened to you until now may simply be the effect of a cause for which you are not responsible. This is why you must never feel ashamed if you come from a difficult family. You must not feel ashamed of your origins, or of having no money in your pockets while you struggle to build stability. You must not feel ashamed if you are not yet who you want to be, or who society wants you to become so that you can be classified as belonging to a certain social level. These are all illusions. Mental and social constructions that imprison unaware people, leaving them to live in a vegetative, zombified state, moving forward out of inertia rather than true will.

When you regain your awareness, you understand that the real value of a person lies in who they are inside: their soul, their way of being, their principles, their values, their inner love and strength. That is the real treasure. And that is why you must never be ashamed of being born in a disadvantage, because what truly makes the difference is your courage to rebuild yourself on your own.

Use your pain as your engine, as your motivation. Act, move forward even if you feel negative emotions like shame or fear. Those emotions may be more familiar to you than positive ones. The only way to move from a mind conditioned by past trauma to a healed and free mind is through courage. Only courage can heal you.

So even if you are afraid or ashamed, take a deep breath and do what you know you must do: find a temporary job to become independent, work on a project in parallel, eat better, cut toxic relationships with friends, partners, relatives, family members, parents, exercise regularly, sleep better, reduce your time on social media and use it more intentionally, choose something you like and improve until you become excellent at it.

You already know what you need to do. Do it.

No one has the right to humiliate you or to push you away from what you need to accomplish, and anyone who tries does not truly care about you. Put aside the foolish ego born from fear and open your mind and heart to possibility.

If you do not have children or animals depending on you, you have no idea how lucky you are. You can go anywhere. You have all the time in the world to invest in what will make you exceptionally successful. Use your time to become who you want to become. No more excuses. No more crying. No more postponing your life.

You are the master of your life. You are the one living within yourself, no one else.

So why should you feel ashamed of life’s adversities? Out there, no one has a perfect life, especially those who try hardest to appear as if they do. Do not let appearances deceive you. The truth is more valuable than anything else in the world because it makes you free and untouchable.

Circumstances are never shameful when we face them with dignity.

Change your Life right Now.

If you feel the need to change your life, it’s because right now something fundamental is missing, something you need in order to feel good, to feel happy the way you feel when you have the tools and you feel free to do what you desire. You need to take back control and be the main character of your own life, being able to live your life without being conditioned or controlled by the world, by others, or by circumstances.

So, if at this moment you feel the need to change your life, it’s because some fundamental pillars are missing.

And what are these pillars?

The first pillar is financial freedom.

Financial freedom means that you not only have an income that allows you to live and cover your basic needs, but also gives you space for everything that is not “basic”: higher pleasures, experiences, things that make you feel good.

Obviously, if you earn very little, if you have loans, if you struggle to reach the end of the month, you do not have financial freedom.

If you are studying and depend on your parents, you do not have financial freedom.

If you are not working and you are with a man (or woman) who financially supports you, you do not have financial freedom.

You have financial freedom when you, and only you, depend financially on yourself.

A small salary is not enough: you must earn enough to exit the hamster wheel and become financially free.

But financial freedom alone is not enough. You also need financial knowledge: you must know how to protect your money, how to use it to create more money, how to optimize your investments.

There is no real financial freedom without financial understanding.

The most important thing is not how you earn money, because you can eventually earn money, but how you spend it, how you protect it, how you avoid wasting it.

If you earn 2000 euros and the moment they enter your account you feel the urge to spend them on unnecessary things, then you do not know how to prioritize what is necessary over momentary impulses. And this is the reason why you are not wealthy.

This is why this first pillar, financial freedom, is absolutely fundamental.

When you are financially stable, you can solve problems; your choices come from what you want, not from what you are forced to do. You can move, act, choose. Without money, you can’t act.

But freedom without responsibility is just recklessness.

So, besides having financial stability, you must also know how to manage your money. And money management is deeply connected to your inner world: your awareness, your values, your ability to prioritize, your confidence.

When your values are confused or compromised by trauma, your priorities collapse. Everything becomes chaotic. Impulsivity takes over.

And you must understand: it is not your fault. But you must work on this.

So we need financial freedom: this is the first pillar.

Then we need inner awareness and integrity: this is the second pillar.

This is what allows you to protect what you have, and to protect yourself. The third pillar is action and self-elevation. Now that you have money and knowledge, you must act. The third pillar is about building yourself: working on your body, your health, your communication, the way you move in the world. Think of how many beautiful, wealthy people lose all their charm the moment they speak. The way they move, talk, interact… It changes everything.

I started working on this myself: observing my voice, my gestures, the movements of my lips, my hands, my posture. You have no idea how powerful this is.

This third pillar includes everything that is not a basic need but nourishes your soul: relationships, friendships, connections, your passions, your work.

And here is the paradox: the first pillar depends on the third, but the third depends on the first. It’s a loop. Your family should transmit at least two pillars: – economic stability (first pillar) – inner integrity (second pillar). When you inherit these two, you are free to build the third. The real struggle is for those who inherit neither.

I was one of those.

I only had the third pillar, dreams, passions, creativity, but no financial freedom and no inner integrity. I lost money, friendships, everything. Now that I understand this, I want to transmit it. Because many adults who “made it” never tell the truth: out of egoism, out of fear of losing their privilege.

What I am saying here, I would say to the 15-year-old me. If I had known my value, I wouldn’t have needed anything. Today we have tools to build ourselves. Internet is a public square: if you have a talent, if you know how to do something, you can show it and build a future. It is much easier to overcome poverty when you understand this. Social media are not “bad”: it depends on who uses them. And no, the world is not saturated: the world always needs something new. The second pillar, your inner integrity, is the foundation. Because when you have integrity, you are not afraid. And when you are not afraid, you can build everything.