Don’t focus on losses.

We all lose something.

We lose friends, we lose money, we lose someone we loved, we lose opportunities.

We lose time. We lose many things.

But the more we focus on the loss, the more those losses affect us. The more we stay there, the less space, energy, and vibration we have to create and receive something better.

The more you focus on losses, the more losses you will experience in your life, because that is the level of energy and reality you are living from.

If, for example, you lose ten euros, how much does it really affect you?

Instead of focusing on what you lost, focus on the amount of money you can still create if you put your heart into what you love to build.

You have to accept the fact that you will always experience some losses. It is part of this reality. It is how life works, it is how our bodies work: we always need to expel something. Losses and negativity are part of this world. They exist. We cannot completely get rid of them, but we can limit how much space they occupy in our lives.

The more aware you become of this, the less you will be affected by it.

It’s like rain.

When life brings chaos, you have three choices.

You can stand there and complain: what a terrible day, I don’t feel like going for a run, I don’t feel like working, I don’t feel like doing anything. You complain about the traffic, about people not meeting your expectations, about everything. This means living in reaction to events.

Or you can let the chaos enter you, destroy you, overwhelm you. You despair, you think the world is against you, you read every inconvenience as a sign of bad luck, and you collapse emotionally and physically.

Or you can do something else.

As someone special I recently met told me: you can dance in the chaos and wear your soul like a royal coat.

No matter what happens outside, you are. You don’t wait for conditions to change in order to be yourself.

Chaos can pass through you, but it doesn’t have to live inside you.

The more you stay focused on yourself, on creating, on being, the less important losses become. They will still exist, they always will, but they will be irrelevant. They will be part of the package.

Even a healthy body constantly expels dead cells. It processes, it cleans itself.

That is nothing compared to a body that has accumulated stress, toxins, and excess for years.

It’s always a matter of quantity.

Losses are not the problem. Accumulation is.

Life is about this.

The more you focus on good things, the more good things will come into your life, because you know how to recognize and appreciate them.

So don’t integrate losses into your heart, into your mind, into your life.

Accept them and let them go, knowing that something better will come. Focus on growth and on the opportunities that will arrive.

You can lose thousands of opportunities, but if you focus on the one that is coming, it will come.

If instead you let yourself be affected by what people say or think about you, you will start believing that you only deserve that limited version of yourself.

I know it’s not easy, because the past is often inviting. It is familiar, and in a certain way it makes us feel safe. That certainty comforts us, so we prefer what we already know, even if it hurts us.

But the moment you become aware that losses are part of reality, you stop believing that everything that happens is solid and permanent.

It isn’t. Everything is relative. Everything is fluid. There is nothing permanent here.

You may believe that love can be forever. That belief can live in your heart, but you must still be aware that people can change.

They have the right to change. And so do you.

You are entitled to change your mind.

You are entitled to be different from who you were yesterday.

Every one of us has to face losses, negativity, discomfort, unpleasant people, and the ugliness of this world. The problem is that most people are not aware of this, and when it happens, it can affect them deeply.

Accepting that something exists does not mean allowing it to dominate your life.

It simply means acknowledging reality.

You don’t have to become a wall or live in a cage. You just have to be strong enough to face anything and understand that what happens to you is an experience, it is not who you are.

Someone you love is not obliged to love you back.

No one is obliged to stay.

Nothing in this life is truly your property. Everything can change direction at any moment.

Think about the people in Los Angeles who lost their homes to fire. What could they do about it?

They had to accept the reality of this world, a world made not only of good things and good people, but also of loss and destruction.

You are not responsible for everything that happens in the world.

Just as you are not responsible if someone decides to leave you or to change direction.

The more you become aware of this, the less shaken you are by discomfort, rejection, not being chosen, not being accepted, or not getting a job.

And the more comfortable you are with this, the more attractive you become.

Because you are not reacting, not collapsing, not begging life to be different.

You are simply being, even in the middle of the storm.