Change your Life right Now

If you feel the need to change your life, it’s because right now something fundamental is missing, something you need in order to feel good, to feel happy the way you feel when you have the tools and you feel free to do what you desire. You need to take back control and be the main character of your own life, being able to live your life without being conditioned or controlled by the world, by others, or by circumstances.

So, if at this moment you feel the need to change your life, it’s because some fundamental pillars are missing.

And what are these pillars?

The first pillar is financial freedom.

Financial freedom means that you not only have an income that allows you to live and cover your basic needs, but also gives you space for everything that is not “basic”: higher pleasures, experiences, things that make you feel good.

Obviously, if you earn very little, if you have loans, if you struggle to reach the end of the month, you do not have financial freedom.

If you are studying and depend on your parents, you do not have financial freedom.

If you are not working and you are with a man (or woman) who financially supports you, you do not have financial freedom.

You have financial freedom when you, and only you, depend financially on yourself.

A small salary is not enough: you must earn enough to exit the hamster wheel and become financially free.

But financial freedom alone is not enough. You also need financial knowledge: you must know how to protect your money, how to use it to create more money, how to optimize your investments.

There is no real financial freedom without financial understanding.

The most important thing is not how you earn money, because you can eventually earn money, but how you spend it, how you protect it, how you avoid wasting it.

If you earn 2000 euros and the moment they enter your account you feel the urge to spend them on unnecessary things, then you do not know how to prioritize what is necessary over momentary impulses. And this is the reason why you are not wealthy.

This is why this first pillar, financial freedom, is absolutely fundamental.

When you are financially stable, you can solve problems; your choices come from what you want, not from what you are forced to do. You can move, act, choose. Without money, you can’t act.

But freedom without responsibility is just recklessness.

So, besides having financial stability, you must also know how to manage your money. And money management is deeply connected to your inner world: your awareness, your values, your ability to prioritize, your confidence.

When your values are confused or compromised by trauma, your priorities collapse. Everything becomes chaotic. Impulsivity takes over.

And you must understand: it is not your fault. But you must work on this.

So we need financial freedom: this is the first pillar.

Then we need inner awareness and integrity: this is the second pillar.

This is what allows you to protect what you have, and to protect yourself. The third pillar is action and self-elevation. Now that you have money and knowledge, you must act. The third pillar is about building yourself: working on your body, your health, your communication, the way you move in the world. Think of how many beautiful, wealthy people lose all their charm the moment they speak. The way they move, talk, interact… It changes everything.

I started working on this myself: observing my voice, my gestures, the movements of my lips, my hands, my posture. You have no idea how powerful this is.

This third pillar includes everything that is not a basic need but nourishes your soul: relationships, friendships, connections, your passions, your work.

And here is the paradox: the first pillar depends on the third, but the third depends on the first. It’s a loop. Your family should transmit at least two pillars: – economic stability (first pillar) – inner integrity (second pillar). When you inherit these two, you are free to build the third. The real struggle is for those who inherit neither.

I was one of those.

I only had the third pillar, dreams, passions, creativity, but no financial freedom and no inner integrity. I lost money, friendships, everything. Now that I understand this, I want to transmit it. Because many adults who “made it” never tell the truth: out of egoism, out of fear of losing their privilege.

What I am saying here, I would say to the 15-year-old me. If I had known my value, I wouldn’t have needed anything. Today we have tools to build ourselves. Internet is a public square: if you have a talent, if you know how to do something, you can show it and build a future. It is much easier to overcome poverty when you understand this. Social media are not “bad”: it depends on who uses them. And no, the world is not saturated: the world always needs something new. The second pillar, your inner integrity, is the foundation. Because when you have integrity, you are not afraid. And when you are not afraid, you can build everything.